Not yet divorced but already worrying about your ex’s next wedding?
Weddings are typically a joyous occasion to look forward to, but not always. If your ex is getting re-married, do you think you’ll be invited? Or will you invite your ex? After all, he/she is/was one of the most important people in your life. And that person probably shaped at least part of who you are today. But what if it was a bitter divorce?
Will you both be able to put it behind you? And what if seeing your ex marry someone else is too much to handle? There’s no way you won’t be able to compare it to your wedding with him/her. Will it make you feel insecure? Will you somehow regret divorcing that person in those moments of confusion? Will you be angry at him/her for separating from you and so quickly starting a new life? What if you have a child in the wedding who wants you there for support?
There are many factors to consider. And, once again, there is no right answer. Have you also considered seeing your old in-laws? Or his/her entire family again? Can you handle that? Maybe it will actually be a nice reunion. Don’t think that just because it might be weird to attend your ex’s wedding that you shouldn’t go. Many people actually feel a sense of relief and joy during the celebration. Seeing your ex tied to someone new might be much more important to you than signing divorce documents. But, each scenario is different.
If you’re not over your ex completely or you haven’t started dating again, maybe you should skip the wedding. Assess how you feel and where your emotions are at. In your mind, try to place yourself in a beautiful wedding seeing your ex madly in love with someone else. If you can be happy for him/her and enjoy the celebration as part of the extended family, go! If not, avoid the event.
