Bohm Wildish: Life After Divorce
When you’re in the process of divorce, nothing seems to be good. By aligning yourself with experienced attorneys, you put yourself in the position to ride it out from a place of trust in their legal counsel navigational skills. Yet, from this place of the perfect storm — your wife had an affair, and she wants to call it quits and take half your company, or your husband has decided he wants to find himself in Barbados and you’re not invited, there is good and a light at the end of the proverbial tunnel.
Author William Bridges in his book, Transitions — Making Sense of Life’s Changes, shares the difference between “change” and “transition.” Change is situational, whereas transition is psychological. With divorce there are obvious changes, and with them come a transitional inner reorientation and self-redefinition. Divorce takes on a painful quality, when you are living with the unknown and going through these times.
The good news is when we check in with clients a year or two out from their divorce, we hear these “good life” scenarios:
- My home is no longer filled with tension.
- I have a much better relationship with my children.
- It’s great to have the freedom to do what I want — when I want.
- My career is back on track, and I see the potential of falling in love again.
- I no longer have to walk on eggshells out of fear.
- My new life is centered on my passions and interests.
- My children are better behaved and are able to talk to me.
After the fog of uncertainty lifts from your divorce, there is a new beginning. It helps to know you are not alone. Every lifetime has its own unique rhythms, and with the proper legal counsel you take your crisis and turn it into a door opening for change and transition.
