Topic – Divorce Advice: Janis Spindel, CEO of Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking, Inc, outlines one way to move on successfully after divorce in a recent HuffPost Divorce article. While it may seem underrated, making new friends after a split is essential to remaining happy. Most of your friends are probably married, and it can be hard to meet new people.
It’s particularly important to make friends of the same sex. They are people you can talk openly with and not have the pressure of immediately dating again. They’ll also probably have awesome friends of the opposite sex to introduce you to once you’re open to dating again. Networking and new friends leads to new circles and new people of the opposite sex in your radar.
For women, two easy places to make new friends are nail and hair salons. Feed a compliment to the person sitting next to you and it will open up a conversation. Girls like to talk, and a compliment about her new hair/nails is a great place to start.
Men can usually make friends at the gym. The common interest is already there- working out. Compliments don’t work quite as well, but you can ask someone to spot you or about the exercise they’re doing.
Classes are another great place to meet friends and potential partners for men and women. Cooking, wine, workout, painting, and fashion are all interests that are can come in handy and make for easy conversation.
As a divorcee, you will quickly realize that the married friends you had will still want to do couple-y things, and you won’t want to anymore. So go out and make new friends! They’ll be a great support system for you and might introduce you to that next special someone once you’re ready.
